Hello
Everyone,
With
the universal Loving Kindness exercise, I had no problems with the first two
questions, may all individuals gain freedom from suffering and may all
individuals find sustained health happiness, and wholeness. But, when it came to the two questions that
started with “may I assist all”, that is where I struggle. Do not get me wrong, it is not that I do not
desire to help everyone nor do I wish to see anyone hurt in anyway; I just struggle
with some particular people. For that
reason alone, that is why I am going to choose to focus on the area of work
with my integral assessment.
With
the integral assessment, when I reflect on where I am at with my interpersonal
relationships with a particular person at work, I definitely need to go to the
next level of development which would be a more positive and connected
relationship with my new boss. She has
come in very strong, bossy, insulting, and opinionated without respecting how
procedures have been done over the past five years. It is very hard for me to witness my peers as
well as myself go from loving what we do to dreading coming in everyday. I need to be more understanding of her
position. I know that it has to be hard
to be the new person and maybe with a little more understanding, I can build a
better working relationship with her. I
will certainly pray about it as well as continue to do the loving kindness
exercises to continue to grow and develop in this area. Ultimately I will gain wellness from being
kind and respectful instead of avoiding her like the plaque.
Jacqui
Hi Jacqui,
ReplyDeleteI know exactly where you are coming from when it comes to praying, helping and even forgiving others. I struggle just like you do with the last two statements of the loving kindness exercise. But I know that for me to be able to flourish and reach integral health it is something that I have to do. That is why I chose a specific person to concentrate on. Even though I have no contact with person and never have to speak to her again. I still let my thoughts of the past control my emotions. So I've chosen to repeat those statements each day in the hopes it will help me heal that little part inside of me that was torn apart.
I believe you will succeed in your development area as you have acknowledged it and you have also put yourself in your boss' position. I agree that praying will help you feel better and succeed in what you are wanting to achieve.
God Bless,
Cindy
Hello Jacqui: Your analysis was very deep and gave me insight to how to work with my supervisor as well. She too is very strong in opinion and character. Nothing stops her from moving forward, not illness, exhaustion or family life. I struggle with this because I believe we should never allow defeat to slow us down. However, if I am ill or a important family event comes up I would put that before work. Because of the field I am in and the managerial position I hold, I am supposed to be a example for my students.
ReplyDeleteI have confronted my supervisor and explained that my children's school activities come before teaching extra classes and she seems to understand this.
I have figured out, like you suggested with your supervisor, what makes her think this way. Her job is demanding and her supervisor will accept nothing less than perfect. Her children are grown and she has the need to stay busy all the time for the sake of mental stability. I understand her more and I try to meet her half-way but I will never allow myself to be as busy as her.
Great blog
Cherie